4 Even Better Reasons to Avoid Dating Single Parents
I think many of us have been down that road when you find out that the person you just started dating, or at least have a mutual interest in, has kids. You really like this person, so you think you might give it chance, or perhaps their children don’t bother you at all… yet. I’ve come up with some reasons why it is not a good idea to get in a relationship with someone with kids.
Their baby mava/fava drama. Sometimes when a man and woman fall in love (lust, if on a drunken one night stand) and a child, they don’t always get along afterwards. Your partner’s ex may resent the fact that he or she has a new love in their life and might want to start some trouble between you two. Your partner’s ex might also want to use the kids(s) to spy on you and your boo when he’s got the for the weekend. Another thing, if your woman’s baby fava is doing a bid, you do not want to be confronted by an angry man who just got out of prison for a body as to why his son is calling you ‘daddy’. Or you have to deal with your man’s mood swings ‘cause that bitch keeps trying to increase her child support when he only gets paid $12 an hour.
Having a child is not exciting to them. If you get this far into a relationship, the joy of a first boy/girl is lost on them because they’ve already had a child(ren). They just won’t share in that happiness with you, and you might resent that.
They might still be having sex with their child’s mava/fava. This one hits close to home because this is my situation. He feels he can’t really commit to you because they still have sex. The reason they had a child in the first place is because there was chemistry from the jump, and they’re still on very good terms. You know that it shouldn’t take him four hours to drop his little boy off at his mother’s, but you know you can’t stop him from seeing his little one every weekend, especially if all he lives for are those weekends with his kid.
Their kids come first. When you hear your love say that their kids are the love of their live, you can’t help but feel mixed feelings of happiness that he/she really loves their kids and they are very involved in their life, and sadness because you’re number three in line in this order – 1. their kids, 2. themselves, 3. you; and that’s if they’re not on good terms with their exes. There really is no room for your relationship to grow, and to be honest, he’s only got time for phone sex and an occasional movie.
