Xilla on – Cheaters, Trust, & Betrayal
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Dear BlogXilla
I figured I could ask u this, as a Libra I know I can trust your advice. My boyfriend recently told me that he knows that my best friend’s boyfriend has cheated on her plenty of times, but made me promise not to tell. Now on one hand if it were me, I would DEFINITELY want to know, but on the other hand, he’s my boyfriend I don’t wanna betray his trust. So Xilla, what do I do? Do I betray my boyfriend and tell, or do I betray my best friend and not tell? Come on wit that supreme Libra mind : )
Signed, Lost In Love
Dear Lost in Love,
Your boyfriend did not do you any favor’s by putting you in this situation. Based on the fact that I don’t have a lot of information on how the Intel came about, I’m left to assume. But if I received this information I would have had to ask how did he know. Is he friends w/ her Boyfriend? If so it’s likely that he could have been w/ him while he was cheating, and cheating himself. I only say this b/c if he wasn’t then why would he care if you told YOUR BESTFRIEND? or maybe the Bestfriend’s boyfriend has some information on him that he may be able to tell in return.
In a situation like this I would say think about your future and your past. Who did you know longer? 9 times out of ten your best friend if she is truly your best friend will be by your side long after your boyfriend is out of your life and if he truly loved you he would not ask you to censor yourself and would still love you even more if you told. B/c he would know in his heart that you wouldn’t keep anything from him. I’m sorry but to me based off this shallow attempt to give you a bit of information he’s either
1) Telling on himself
2) Keeping secrets from you or Supports keeping secrets from people which isn’t good
3) Does not respect your relationship w/ your friends
What you need to do is look inside of your self and do what’s right, even if it means risking your relationship. Think about it, what if your bestfriend knew your man was cheating on you? Would you want to know? Karma is no joke and what comes around goes around. I say clear your conscious and come clean to your bestfriend. Because to me best friends go through ups and downs and BEST friends share more of a bond to the heart than a boyfriend ever will. Now if it was a regular friend I would say hold the Intel and mind your business but hearts are delicate and if the info comes out and your bestfriend comes to you crying on your shoulder that pain will be on you for knowing and as you watch the effects of a broken heart reap havoc on your bestest bud you’ll have to know that you could have prevented this before it happened. Can you live w/ that?
BlogXilla
What would you do? Would you hold the facts or inform your best friend they’re being cheated on?
