5 Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship For Couples – by Basketball Wife: @JackieChristie

WRITTEN BY JACKIE CHRISTIE FOR BLOGXILLA.COM

People always ask me “how have you and your husband Doug been able to remain happy and in love for over 16+ years of marriage?” and my answer is very simple — we put each other first and we make sure to never let the fire die. I’ve been asked this question many times and have had people say “you should write a book” — so I did. My 5th book “Sexual Relations: A His & Hers Guide To Greater Intimacy” will be available in book stores this summer and will feature many surprises like hot guest authors, tips, secrets and many different things that couples can do when their fire is dimming to relight the blaze! I‘ve learned over the course of my marriage what keeps my husband & I happy & in love and I want to share some tips exclusively with the BlogXilla community.

1. Role Playing

• No ladies & gentlemen — acting isn’t just for those living in Hollywood. It doesn’t matter where you live or what your background is, unleash the inner Halle Berry or Denzel Washington inside of you and play the role of a lifetime. Don’t be afraid to let your inner “Sexual Intellectual” flag fly and have fun with your partner. People have often asked me “has your husband ever strayed or cheated on you?” and mostly all of them are surprised when I say no. My philosophy is: Why would he have to cheat or stray if I’M EVERY WOMAN for him? For example ladies — if you find your man making little comments about Nicki Minaj here and there, go out and buy a pink wig, dress up in your flyest outfit and be HIS “Nicki” for the night. Ok, so maybe the pink wig may be a little too much for some of you (smiles) but you get what I’m saying, right? Perfect.

2. Lights, Camera — Action!

• Since we’re talking about acting & role playing, why not take it a step further. Turn on your camera and figure out your best angles. Once you’re lighting is right, your angles are perfect, be a performer and put on a show! Now I must admit, I’ve never filmed myself on camera — however the very thought of doing so is still a thrill.

3. Submit.

• The media has always portrayed me to be this over the top in your face spitfire, with a no holds barred persona and that’s true. However, the key is knowing when to turn it on and when to turn it off. There’s nothing sexier than releasing all your inhibitions and letting someone else be in control. Fellas, being submissive isn’t just for women. Release control to your partner and let them surprise you. The results can be beautifully epic!

4. Shut Your F*&k’n Mouth

• Did this sub-title get your attention? Good. That was the point. Like many women, I was raised to be a lady and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Nonetheless, when it comes to adding spice to your relationship, do not be afraid to stray outside of your comfort zone. Understand that there’s a time and a place for everything. For example, no woman wants to be called a “sexy bitch” while shopping for groceries or working out at the gym. However, in the midst of a steamy session with Keith Sweat playing on repeat, being called a “sexy bitch” may be that extra element that sends her over the edge (in a great way).

5. Good Morning. What’s For Breakfast?

• Just like anyone else, I love my pancakes & eggs for breakfast. However, after being married for almost 17 years you need to switch up that breakfast menu every now and then. One of the biggest mistakes couples make in my opinion is sticking to the same routine. There’s nothing more boring than repetition. If your partner is used to coming home from work, taking a shower, eating dinner, watching TV, being intimate and going to sleep, it’s time for a change. Throw a monkey wrench in the equation and switch up the routine. Who says being intimate is only reserved for late nights when the rest of the world is sleep? I’m saying, there are more creative ways to wake up in the morning aside from the sound of an alarm clock. Just use your imagination.

I want to send a special shout out to Xilla for allowing me to express myself on his forum and introducing me to his blogging world. If you guys like what you’ve read or want to hear more, my 5th book “Sexual Relations: A His & Hers Guide To Greater Intimacy” will be in book stores this summer. For updates on everything I’m doing, be sure to follow me on twitter @JackieChristie.