Sleeping With More Than One Person Might Change Your Life
Posted in Relationships on 16. May, 2011
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As I typed away on my the glass of my Iphone about how I wanted to stick it into her so deeply that it felt like someone was tap dancing on the bottom of her pussy in size 12 tim boots, I couldn’t help but think about how much I wanted her. If I could go back in time I’d would have never sent that text message. The girl who is slowly capturing my heart has a man. In the back of my mind I wanted to steal her from her man, because I know I could treat her better than him, I have no problem being boyfriend number 2, but there is something genetically build in most women that prevents them from sleeping with more than one person at a time.
For men its not that hard, most of us are dogs and while some may go behind a woman’s back you really don’t have to do that. While most woman don’t sleep with more than one person, all woman want a choice, so if you’re honest and upfront with them sleeping with Becky on Monday, and KeShayna on Wednesday is totally possible. They should even know you’re sleeping with both of them.
It takes a complex heart to love two people, and it takes a complex brain in order to sleep with two people or more. Sometime you have to separate the emotions from the sex, while keeping her emotions under control. How do you give a person good sex, treat her special and keep her from falling in love with you? It’s a science that should be taught in universities across the world.
If you’re honest with the people you’re sleeping with you can win big or lose a lover. Doesn’t matter either way because beautiful people are like McDonald’s seems like its one on ever corner. But just like McDonald’s Coast to Coast things are different in different places. The one on 5th might make better fries and the one one Broad might give you extra ketchup and napkins, while others you might have to ask. Different people like different Mcdonalds and you have to find the one that works for you.
How many of you, will honestly admit to sleeping with more than one person? Men will because it makes them look like a player, women won’t because of some false ideas about how that might make her look. Some of the women I asked said it’s an emotional thing, others say they just can’t do it, but I believe if the right person comes along it will happen. He will chip away at her morals and slowly get her into the bed and give her the things her man doesn’t. Because women need change, more than they know.
So if she doesn’t give up the cookies, she’ll soon realize that the man she is with isn’t making her happy, but she won’t leave because that’s not what you’re supposed to do, right? Wrong.
What are your thoughts on sleeping with more than one person? Lets converse.
i have slept with more than one person at the same time. i was single and kinda seeing this guy but still getting it in with my at the time ex. was never really there with the other guy and the sex and everything else for that matter just wasnt exciting. guess thats why my ex aint my ex no more but my fiance. I wouldnt do it again….
Why wouldn't you do it again? What was the issue? Just because the dudes werent exciting?
I’ve slept with two guys before,, ((for about 2months)). I eventually told them, because I feel like whoever you sleep with, has the right to know who else you giving it to.
But…..I didn’t consider either of them ‘My Man’
what did they say when you told them? The male ego is very fragile lol
One respected the fact that I let it be known. The other claimed I was the biggest hoe he’s seen thus far lol ….he was obviously fragile
I’ve thought about sleeping with more than one man at a time, but could never do it.
I’ve slept with two guys at the same time for about 4 months. I wasn’t in a committed relationship with either guy so they both knew about each other. It was just sex on my part but one of the guys started having feelings for me and it just wasn’t what I was looking for. Needless to say that ‘friendship’ ended. I’m not with either guy right now.
This is a very interesting blog..
..I am not gonna lie and act like I have never done it… I have done it and it was mostly for the sex ( yes the guys and I like each other but one I kno I will never be with b/c he got his girl)…. It was both great sex and I couldn’t choose between them… Being single and not obligated to either of them, I felt it was okay at the time.. 
.. it’s hard to find a man who will deliver that mind blowing sex dwl and the one who can hit the spot and make me wetter than rain falling on my body is gonna be the winner..;-).. Needless to say “I am chilling now”..
Thanks Im glad you think it's interesting. first let me say I respect you being honest we all want honesty. Ummm raises hand!! lol Glad you're chilling.
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I’ve slept with 2 guys at one time and quite frankly, I didn’t tell either of them because neither was my man nor did I want anything more than sex from either of them. After a while, one started seriously getting out of hand, trying to control/question me. I stopped dealing with him altogether and continued sleeping with the other. I say as long as you’re SAFE about what you’re doing and you’re not hurting anyone’s feelings and you’re SINGLE…do you.
Right, but why didn'y you tell them? Obviously one dude got it twisted but things could of be different if he knew the truth. you think?
The thing is… it’s not like we ever had any understanding other than the fact that what we had was sexual and nothing more. We talked about that way before we ever began having sex. We agreed we wanted nothing more than sex, neither of us was in the mindset for a relationship and we were both seemingly cool with it. I guess he must have thought I should have wanted more eventually. When I didn’t and made it clear I was happy with what we had, he flipped. All of a sudden he wanted to run the show and get possessive. That wasn’t going to fly. It’s not even like I was running around flaunting the other guy in his face, he had no clue about the other guy, he just felt he had certain “rights” to me because we were sleeping together and I was having none of that foolishness.
I’m single, the sex is protected, and I’ve already let them both know that we aren’t in a relationship so there isn’t a problem. There are 2 guys I keep on rotation. One fulfills the sensual side (deep long kisses, lots of foreplay, sex that last about 1.5 – 2 hours). The other side fulfills the freaky side (sex in the car, hair pulling, chocolate syrup, ridiculous oral, lots of positions). I like them both (as a friend) but will never love either one of them.
Isn't that crazy how some people are good for a certain period of time but in the long run you just don't see them there. wild right?
I know my limitations. Hate to blame astrology on this one but as a gemini…I get bored easily. They are both attractive and smart (in their own ways) but they can’t stimulate me mentally lol. They’ll say somthing cute followed by no words and drool. I’m like, time to do what we do; I have a dinner date later.
Hahah! Dinner date, would you be dinner? Let me know how that goes.
Currently as a single woman, I do it. I have someone I met over 6 mos ago that we know when the other person sends that message after 10 it means get dressed let’s go. I know he’s sleeps with other people, but like you mentioned about the male ego, he is unaware of the other people I may sleep with. I will say though that the other guy is very aware that he is not the only one and is perfectly cool with the concept. Some ego’s are nonexistent lol, mines included. As long as the numero uno is happy and makes me happy when we see each other we cool lol….I know Imma catch alot for my take on it.
Yeah mines is too. I used to get all hurt and upset but then it hit me… I'm hitting other chicks too why am i mad? lol
I did, I was dating about 5 guys and having sex with 3 men over the course of a year right out of high school, I hate myself for it. I was honest with them and they were casually dating other women too… but something about multiple men courting you in different way competitively fed my ego in a way that changed my whole personality…. close friends would call me a different breed of bitch… at 18 with a city job right out of high school and a new car it was a compliment… 10 years later I would never do that again, because the one I really liked and had liked since I was 14, is the one that to this day wants nothing to do with me at all… I didn’t even do anything he just couldn’t take my attitude and how I started talking him.
I feel you. I can't say anything to change your mind. You've tried it lived it and changed. That apart of growing up. But I don't htink it was the sleeping with different people more than it could be your attitude. Having all of that success and things working for you could make you ruthless. I know how i was… Hats off. Thanks for sharing.
i did it I was single both guys knew of the other and I was honest with both of them and let them know they were not the onl one it lasted for almost two years until I moved out of state. i figure why should guys have all the fun
That's a good logic. I am not mad. Do you still visit? If so would you let em get some?
yes I do visit and they both can still get some and they both still know the other is in the picture it works out fine for al parties in volved i they know the situation they are in
Well, I had a period in my life I call my “ho-phase”. It was right after I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I was single, horny, and I had a nice plethora of penis’ to choose from. It was nice! I was picking between 3 dicks for about 6-9months. They each served a purpose. Either ate pusst well, fucked me hard, or fucked me tender. lol Always protected, and always getting checked. One I continued sleeping with up until this year. He was getting to emotional trying to meet the fam, but had his own gf. He was doing too much. At one point ladies just try it, especially before you get into a committed relationship.
Having sex with more than one person is totally fine with me. I think it has a lot to do w/ my age & where I am in life. I’m only 20 y/o, I’ve never been in a committed relationship, & I’m not looking to be in one either. I’ve been having sex with one guy for over a year. I keep him around because he likes to try new things and he enjoys rough sex just as much as I do. I casually date other guys too. They’re very sweet and charming guys, and I do like them, but there’s no excitement when it comes to the sex. It gets boring quick & starts to feel like a routine.
Having sex with more than one person is ok with me, we have no attachments and we both know our roll. Now I’ve been with a married man and men who have had relationships with others which didn’t bother me, because I already knew what we had, know my roll, and I couldn’t let my emotions get the best of me and I come out looking like a clown if I wanted to have a relationship knowing that man is currently taken. I’m currently in a commited relationship now and yes I have done some wrong but what person hasn’t? I meet guys who should already know what it is, if I have someone and what we doing is just sex then that’s it and we should keep all conversations, dates, and etc to a min. It should be just sex and nothing else. Now those who are single and having sex with more than one person I do commend you, just stay safe and choose who you catch feelings for.
@ Jackie Rayne thank you your comment was on point. But besides that been there done that on to the next one.
Iam single, iam 20, and I love sex, BUT I think I have a complex. LoL
Honestly, I think i’ve been brainwashed with double standards so long that I think I would feel like a hoe if I had multiple sex partners. With that being said, I don’t think that would stop me from experiencing what its like to have sex with more than one person someday. I definitely think it’s something I have to mentally and emotionally prepare myself for.
@ Xilla, i wouldnt do it again cos for me its just not worth it. there was nothing exciting for me in it. it was the one dude that wasnt exctiing, i guess i just dont see the point in it. but kudus to however is doing it and happy…personal prefenrence i guess.
Its kinda of hard to separate the two. So easy to fall in love with someone that fucks you sooooooooo right.
You have a point , but once you learn how to separate the two is rather easy.
If a woman sleeps with more than one man at a time and accidentally ends up pregnant, she has to worry about who the father is. Men don’t have such an issue to worry about.