More Women Should Call Their Man Daddy!
Posted in Relationships on 30. Nov, 2010
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Over the weekend one of my Twitter followers made reference to a blog I wrote called 5 Reason Why men like being called daddy. She was responding to a a guy who tweeted “if one more girl call me daddy during sex I am gonna call her daughter and ruin everything.”
Childish logic if you ask me. Being called Daddy by a woman is the ultimate form of flattery and respect in a relationship. Just as the term you ain’t my daddy one of the worst things a man can hear in his relationship. I was dealing with this girl who used to call me Daddy during regular conversation. If we were walking down Madison ave she would say something like “you like how I look in these pumps daddy?” or “daddy can I suck you off in the movies?” all this was verbal forplay for the things we did.
I won’t speak for all men but I like being called daddy because it let’s me know I am doing something right. It let’s me know that the woman I am with has given herself to me. That I am her king, her man and that I hold the number one spot in her heart.
No one should be thinking about their parents during love making. This is a different sort of daddy. I’ve come across a few women who object to calling a dude Daddy, to them I say give in. It’s about submitting, it’s about kissing it and making every thing better. As I previously wrote “ So when my lady calls me daddy she’s telling me she needs me. She needs me to kiss her to make her feel better, she’s telling me she needs me to drive the manxilla deeper inside of her, to make all of her troubles go away.” So when you hear a man objecting to being called Daddy it’s probably because he has daddy issues himself.
But to each their own. What are your thoughts on Daddy?
Once during sex my husband-then boyfriend-kept sayin stuff like “u like the way daddy giving u this d*** Baby,etc. The sex was immaculate and as much as I hated to disturb the groove, I said,”My Daddy is at home.” He still trip out @ that till this day! It was just sooo uncomfortable/annoying! I couldn’t take it. To Me, you gotta have more than good sex to get the Daddy title. Now I DO, in fact, refer to my Man as “Daddy” at times. But those times come naturally & are not forced or pre-planned and they NEVER happen in the bedroom!
That’s just weird!
I’mma have to say its sexy, but it doesn’t necessarily matter wat u call me as long as you respect my gangsta when I’m going in…I gotta say I like to hear the Papi term more than Daddy myself…
this is maybe the most misogynistic diatribe i have ever read in my entire life. get a clue
um…NO! I have a daddy in my life, so the ladies you’re probably dealing with don’t. It’s insulting to the few fathers out there like mine, who have stepped up.
i agree!
You know something I often thought this … its the females out here without real fathers/dads/daddys who find this arousing and men without fathers to know the difference I guess.
I think it’s so sick to call another man daddy…(@_@) makes me throw up in my mouth a little. I have my Father in my life and always have maybe that’s why it seems so disturbing because I actually used to call my Dad Daddy.
I get the submissive thing and all that jazz but I call my man KING before I call him “daddy” thats just sick and he feels the same exact way. Perhaps it’s because he also had his father in his life also, it’s just hard to seperate the difference of an identical word…
yes! my EXACT sentiment.
Preach!
Well said! Im mad I wasted my time reading this garbage…smh
I have a Daddy and what I notice about these men that want to be called Daddy is that they are barely daddy’s to their children. I had a man asking me to call him Big Daddy and we had never had sex. A Big Daddy in my mind is the patriarch of the family, he is happily married, with children and grandchildren and has provided for his family from the beginning. That is the only time I find the name respectful.
Thank you for articulating this sentiment so flawlessly.
All is now right in the world.
Carry on.
This is the result of black people who haven’t grown up with fathers in their household or some sort of ghetto BS! I’m a black male who grew up with a father in the house, so if I ever hear a woman call me daddy I would kick her out the bed and send her to a genealogy site so that she can find her dad. This is just negro bs, no woman with a real daddy at home is gonna call her man daddy. BS. Weak black men are always trying to find self-importance and relevance in the wrong places!
I want my girl to say OHHHH BABY and sign with relief…
Well said.
very well put!
That’s the difference between a child and a man. My kids call me daddy and my wife calls me daddy because I am a daddy. Not her baby. If you act like a daddy you get the respect a daddy deserves. Call me daddy any day.
@blakkas: I fully agree with this statement. I call my husband daddy because he is the father of my children, a GOOD DADDY. I grew up with both my parents so I know who ‘my’ real daddy is too.
thats all well and good but think about where the term ” daddy” is commming from and why it is a actual term that black woman use. you may be that woman that grew up with both her partents and know the difference between a father and a husband but understand that the term “daddy” does not orignate nor did it manifest from the girls that grew up with their fathers. so therefore you indirectly add to the use of word “daddy”.
are you suggesting that “daddy” now has a new meaning when you use it to compliment your husband???..foolishness
racist fuck
soooo Baby not Daddy SMH! <~~~~you wanna be controlled not the one controlling!
OMG Yes THank you! Wow! THank YOu!! Welll Said!
oooohhhhh bbbbaaaaabbbby!
Why is it ok to say oh baby and not oh daddy? shouldnt I think about our child and feel grossed out if im calling my man baby during sex,the way your grossed out when your lady calls you daddy? My husband calls me ma or mama sometimes..is that wrong too? Daddy,mama,baby~just terms of affection and I think people are looking to deep.btw the way..white women have called the guy daddy on their flicks for years so please dont use this as an excuse to divide our black community yet again, that has nothing to do with being ghetto or black men needing to feel important or relevant
thank you!!! People are taking this ish too deep…I also grew up in a 2 parent home with my dad and have no qualms about calling my man daddy…people please give it a rest it’s not that serious
Amen!!! I call my man daddy all the time, and it has nothing to do with “daddy” issues. My dad was in the home, and his dad was a minister. We are both able to distinguish the two, and are in no way trying to disrespect our own fathers. It’s just used as a term of endearment between lovers or husband and wife. Why must ppl take everything and twist it the wrong way, or turn it into something sick or dirty?
Sooooooo agree. Some ppl will take any reason to be self righteous. I call him daddy because I do. I call my FATHER dad…not daddy
OMG are Mike and the 5 or 6 people above him serious? This is not a black thing and what does having a father have to do with it? I bet my last dollar all 6 of ya’ll are boring in bed. This is not saying the person is your dad. Its about a level of love, commitment, submission & INTENT. I call women mami sometimes not because I think she’s my mother but because I happen to be feeling them and most times when I do it we’re connecting on a deep mental level that has nothing to do with sex…occasionally at other times too lol but its about being there together mentally. I kinda understand black women having a problem…they always have to find a way to make something a issue or reason to talk junk which is why so many of ya’ll are single. I dont care what you look like, nobody wants to put up with that and ya’ll can talk all that “you cant deal with a strong black woman” foolishness you want, grown men want peace. Mike grow a sack please and stop trying to kiss female *ss for approval. Point blank there’s something sexy about it. At the same time I love a smart, strong, business minded woman so dont try and equate this too weakness. And if this is about black men you buster please explain that to the million of happy latin men and women who’ve been making similar statements for centuries and are the fastest growing population demographic in this country. Hmmmm must be real offensive huh?
I love calling my man daddy, that shyt is sexy…
agree!
Daddy is a wonderful foreplay name. I love calling my King Daddy it makes him light up and ready to go. When I call him Daddy he knows he is respected and he is doing the right thing to make Mommy happy!
I prefer to call my my man papa… He likes it.
And I have a very healthy relationship with my father btw.
maybe you call him Papa due to their only being room for one daddy in your life! you have a good relationship with him out of respect loyalty you cant wont call your man daddy
I call my man daddy n he love it I see no problem with making ur man happy. If he does the same
I just recently started messing around with this guy I like, and he likes to be called Daddy. Usually I object because it just feels odd. But I’ve been giving into his wants, so will see what happens. When I call him daddy.
I agree with this article and I call my man Daddy and he is my King, my protector, my mentor and my lover. He is so good to me and he is all that to me. Thats just it – he is the King in my world and I love it!!
I call my husband Poppi, daddy, baby and I even say a little spanish for him when we makelove/have sex.
It seems to make him feel good and in return I get thrusts out of this WORLD wheneer I do one of those things lol.
To whoever said that was ignorant Negro bs you are full of ish.
My husband is White and I am black (indian/egyptian/african bloodline) and he LOVES it.
I have a Daddy…whom i call Daddy… and the man who im in a relationship with is not nor will he EVER be my Daddy. its just no the same thing at all… this is garbage.
On some real i call my man daddy on the regular. i got a daddy and a step daddy bt for me it is affirmation for my man that i am completely and utterly his; emotionally and physically. He’s the only man I’ve ever done it with on a consistent basis but it is about a level of commitment that you don’t just give to anybody.
My girl calls me papi, it does great things to my ego, but I’m so used to it that when she calls me by my real name it sounds wierd.
I am a black woman who likes to call my husband daddy. I mean, he is a father, a very great father at that. I have an extremely healthy relationship with my father and i call him Dad or Pops, so for me theres no ick factor involved when i refer to my man as daddy. I think its a term of endearment when its used with the man ur with. It can also be a lil sexy when used in the proper context. The problem lies with chicks calling all types of suckas “Daddy”. when used in excess..that’s a problem
For a long time I refused to call my man Daddy. I felt weird at first because I know my dad, I grew up with him in my home, and he is still a major part of my life. But when I did say it to my man it took on a different meaning. He’s daddy because he looks after me (not that I can’t, but he’s a man looking after his woman), he handles household business, he’s my protection, he’s my stress reliever, my heart. And please believe using Daddy in the bedroom makes a difference…lol. I can count on him for all things and he goes out of his way to see me happy. He is the only one that I have ever called Daddy. I have dated greated men, but none deserving of that title.
I 100% agree with you. I think daddy can sometimes be synonymous with provider or protecter. Only when he is truly there for you through and through, should your man be called daddy. I see nothing wrong with it. And more importantly to each his own.
People are crazy if they think the only women who call their significant other “daddy” are women without fathers. They clearly…haven’t had sex with enough women to form a conclusion based on facts.
Funny, nobody seems to have a problem with women saying “papi”…which is essentially the same thing. It’s not like we, or atleast I, want a woman to call me FATHER.
Besides, I only want to be called daddy while I’m having sex. I’m not looking for a woman to just call me daddy in regular conversations.
I like calling my guy daddy *shrugs*
Daddy
It’s just a word, you don’t have to turn into something more than what it is.
Nobody has to have psychological, emotional, or daddy issuses just because a woman calls or her lover likes being called daddy. If both parties are comfortable using that term in and outside the bedroom then thats their prerogative. if someones uncomfortable with it then fuck it don’t say it.
I call my father Dad and have been calling my husband “daddy” since we started dating. We are now married and have a daughter that calls him daddy. It was always our pet names, daddy n he calls me mumaz which my daughter now calls me. My mother calls me father daddy n switched to dad when we got older and started calling him dad instead of daddy. I don’t see anything wrong with it And its not a black or ghetto thing We are white, educated, and upper-middle class.
I grew up with both parents in the home and don’t see a problem with calling your man “Daddy”. It’s not like you’re thinking about your biological father in mid-stroke, it’s just a term used for a man who takes care of you and has power. There are different “Daddy modes” lol. Plus I don’t call my real father “Daddy”, I call him “Dad”. I used to think it was gross but when he puts it on you right you will say anything! lol
Every person on here (male and female) who talk about what they would and won’t do if someone called or asked to be called “Daddy” is OBVIOUSLY single….LOL! Everyone who commented that they call or like to be call Daddy are in seemingly happy relationships or married. O_0 LMAO! ….things that make you go”hmmmm!” — I call my man Daddy like it’s his birth name and he LOVES it. SN: He addreses me as “Beautiful” EVERYDAY like it’s mine
#gEtDOwnOrlaydOwN
And every woman who assumes that all people who don’t use the term Daddy must be single, then gets up and starts talking about “lmao, my man calls me Beautiful” must be deeply insecure.
So shut the front door.
I call My man Daddy Cuz he’s My big strong Daddy and Im his sweet little girl. He always punishes this My kitty when Im not being good for Daddy
I call My man Daddy Cuz he’s My big strong Daddy and Im his sweet little girl. He always punishes My kitty when Im not being good for Daddy
fly.redbone.freak I think I love you. I am jealous as hell of your man. See thats what i’m talking about. You just ruined my relationship lol!
I like calling my man daddy. He likes it and i like making him happy. I also call him papi, baby and by his name. Its just dirty talk and he talks dirty to me too.
So juvenile …
@ Deva: I bet if you have a man he’s not happy. Let those hang ups and inhibitions go. I submit to my woman. I want her to do the same. Once you get the kind of treatment 1988sweetface is talking about you cant be satisfied with what your offering. You better keep your man in the house with the tv off before he figures out what he’s missing. I’ll take, worship, and put on a pedestal what you consider to be juvenile ANYDAY. S/N : long as she’s not broke lol.
So do any of these men call their women Mommy as a term of endearment then? Why all this uproar whether a woman calls her man Daddy or not? A man can still be putting it down and a woman can still be in a happy relationship without the constant use of Daddy.Its a matter of preference. You can still consider your man your King, protector, lover, friend etc without having to call him Daddy. I personally dont like to call a man Daddy outside my own Father but I do call him Papi on occasion because its more comfortable for me and he still loves it. Id rather call him my King though. Every Queen deserves a King to rule by her side and Im definitely a Queen befitting of a King and he reminds me of this everyday by telling me he loves me, the things he does for me, how he respects me and how he treats me
Yes!!! Mami, baby, gorgeous, beautiful, love, etc etc. Mami’s my favorite cause other than calling someone love its the deepest for me and its more versatile. I can do some things while saying mami that just feel right and put a uuumph on the situation physically and mentally. If someone has to explain it your not gonna get it anyway though. And papi basically means daddy so I dont understand your thought process. Why do our women have so many hang ups? King and Queen are our positions…mami & daddy/papi is something different and I am Godbody. I call most women I respect Queen especially when they have Knowledge of Self. I dont call most women mami. You get what i’m saying?
Oh and I dont think this is just about sex. I used to be involved with a Puerto Rican woman that called me papi during the course of regular conversation. I promise I felt bonded to that woman. Even when we argued and she got on my nerves a well placed papi reminded me of how she made me feel ALL THE TIME. Like I was the most important man in her world other than her actual father and relatives, like I was her priority, and it made me want to give her the same feeling.
Im married and I will never call my husband daddy. One great man held that title until he died. My husband is my babe, my man, lover, friend, leader of the house, partner, but not my daddy. Sorry the authors logic is flawed. Some of us black have had great relationships with their dad. All I can say is to each his own, if you call look at the man you have sex with and the man who raised you and call them the same thing, hey thats you. I have too much respect and honor for my dad for that.
I call my husband daddy and see no problem with it. I grew up in a two parent home but I never called my father “daddy”…so yeah, doesn’t EVEN have that connotation for me. My man loves it, he’s a wonderful man and will be a great father and he will STILL be daddy to me when he’s our children’s father…To each his own. Not everyone will be comfortable with everything.
I think both sides have very good points..however who r we to tell each other what to call our mates,significant others..The bottom line is whether u call ur man Daddy or not, does not signify u have daddy issues or submission issues..every one has a term of endearment that they call their mates, it may be an original or it may have have been used time and time again, what makes it different is how U use it and what it means to u!! It is very childish though, to argue about whether this Daddy issue is right or wrong..its not a black or white thing either..what it is is what it is, couples giving each other nicknames..is rather call my man Daddy than N***a or have him call me B***h..and I call my man Daddy, King, Lycan, and any other work, term or likeness that represents power and he does the same for me..that’s just how we do..and I and my Man have a great relationship with my father!! It’s really not that serious people..
If you want to own something…get a dog!
Has nothing to do with ownership and I bet your alone or with a unhappy miserable man. There are women out here that will gladly and openly give themselves fully to a deservig man that is giving himself back fully in return. With that attitude why would someone choose you? Ughh…good luck.
It’s just a term of endearment, the same way my man calls me “baby” or “mama”. Im not going to tell him to stop b/c I’m not his literal child or mother. I’ve called my man daddy a few times and he took it as me showing affection. Nothing more.Some people just need something to complain about. One poster said she calls her man daddy but not in the bedroom b/c THEN it becomes weird. GTFOH! Really?!
I call my dad daddy. I call my man Papi. Keeps the weird vibe down…
As in sugar daddy?
In your own private bedroom, you and your man can say whatever you want!!!! If your man is givin it to you good, and he likes to be called “Daddy” then call him “Daddy”, Sh*t!!!!
That sounds like some twisted, co-dependent, egotistical BS to me. My husband is NOT my daddy or my master, he’s my partner. I’ll be damned if I call him Daddy…. that’s just too mealy-mouthed and creepy. I’m a grown-ass woman and sure as hell don’t need anyone, male or female, to “kiss it and make it better”. WTF?? I love my boo to death, don’t know what I would do without him, but we’re on equal levels. So why would I even allude to a parent-child relationship? smdh
Why is it that deep for you? The kind of submission/commitment it infers has nothing to do with someone being your master or you not being equal. I feel sorry for your man. Sounds like your too caught up in that i’m a strong black woman stuff to put your love of him before your ego & outside opinions. Submitting in the right way is a beautiful thing when its a two way street cause believe me my woman will have to wait her turn to spoil me if im in love. Actually, now that I think about it, I feel sorry for you too. I dont believe in inhibitions when I love and I dont care what anybody else thinks about it. Now thats gangster.
Ehehehehehe ur prObably the type who wants to be called dqddy by her man. Ahahahah freakyyy
Yes I call my man Daddy. He love it too!!! A man should have a pet name for his Lady as well. He calls me: Kitty Kat. (Meow)
Yes I call my man Daddy. He loves it to. He calls me Kitty Kat. (Meow)
In spanish we call eachother papi(pa) and mami(ma). We dont have a problem with that. We see that as a level of appriciation.
I think that its just a matter of not being used to use it in that way in english. Cuz when i read daddy i hear instantly a lil gurl callin her father. But in spanish we also say papi to our fathers but we also say papi to our lovers, without makIng the sick asociation peoPle are making here:p
Well, I personally love calling my boyfriend daddy during sex. I don’t really know how to explain it but it increases the intensity for us. During regular conversations, I don’t call him daddy. I can see how people can think its weird but he thinks its sexy and after I call him daddy, he goes crazy. That’s all I want for my man, I just want to please him. However, I do want to say that I have an awesome relationship with my dad. So, the theory about the female not having a father isn’t necessarily true.
My man and I were together for about six months last year. Back then, he always excercised a little bit if control in the bedroom. He called me his good girl and things like that. Then we broke up and he dated someone else. They broke up and we got back together. Suddenly, he wants me to call him Daddy or sir. He got really bossy and demanding. At first, this weirded me out and it didn’t fly too well. We broke it off again for a bit. Then I don’t know what happened, but he found a happy medium with the whole control thing. He stills likes being called Daddy and sir, but now, he does everything for me to deserve the title. He is so good to me. He is very respectful to me outside the bedroom and absolutely my master in the bedroom. It turns him on in the best way possible for me, so why wouldn’t I do that to make him happy. Honestly, it still feels a little weird… until I get the results of what it does to him, then I don’t mind so much!
Interesting article. Were did you got all the information from…